There was once a man traveling through Europe who found that he had many hours to wait between his hotel check out time in Rome and the departure time for his train. Dragging behind him two large heavy suitcases off he went to walk the streets of Rome, suffering from both the heat and the weight of his baggage. On another occasion he had time to kill in Berlin and once again suffered the heat and the weight of his baggage as he walked around seeing what sights there were to be seen. On another occasion while he was staying in the City of Nice in France, he decided to take a quick trip to Monaco before taking the train back to Paris. And once again he loaded himself down with his heavy baggage and wandered the streets of yet another city. Having done this time and time again, he complained to all his friends about how much he had suffered - and of course he did suffer.
But what an idiot he was. Like so many other people he was afraid to go anywhere without his baggage. It would have been quite easy to stow his baggage away in a locker at the railway station, but he 'needed' the security of knowing that his baggage was always at his beck and call. While we might all consider the man to have been stupid, the reality is that many of us are just like him - we like to keep our (emotional) baggage within easy reach.
Recently I had email communication with a Christian whose manner of communication raised 'red flags' on my end. I am going to freely admit to have been anything but charitable with him, but I simply did not like what I perceived to be his 'self-righteousness superiority'. He tried his best to get me to agree with him but I couldn't, but I also had no wish to explain or justify my religious beliefs.
|Not the first time I have been knocked down.|
In my final email to him I wrote:
- I never sat under teaching without coming across The lying Pastor -- the Thief Pastor -- The rapist pastor -- the child molester pastor -- the drug addict pastor -- the adulterer pastor all of whom were great bible teachers. I learned not to trust my relationship with God to any man no matter what credentials he has, no matter what people say of him and no matter what he preaches.
(These are the most serious and true examples of different Christian ministers from different denominations that I have encountered in my life. There were others with less serious behavior)
His final response was to tell me that he did not wish to further correspond with me and added that he would pray for my healing. The man obviously assumed that I was full of bitterness and anger and he probably thought that he was being a good Christian by telling me that he would pray for me, but within the context of all his correspondence I figure he was just being 'self-righteous'. If you want to pray for a person - then pray for them. But here's the rub.
Einstein is purported to have said: 'Insanity is when you do the same thing over and over again and expect a different result'. The 'pastors' I mentioned above, were real people; people who did their best to get me to believe and do as they did. In each of those cases 'prior to being caught out in their sins', each of those pastors spoke ill of me, slandered me and did their best to control and manipulate people I knew. They did me a lot of injury and caused me a lot of grief.
As I know that I am not insane, I have no intention of repeating former behavior with the expectation of seeing a different result. It doesn't matter how many wonderful Christians and Christian ministers there are out there, I have been burned too many times to stick my hand back in those fires. But I do not carry those experiences around with me as emotional baggage. I do not spend my time complaining about the past or crying over former hurts or seeking revenge or seeking to persuade people that I am a martyr. I have left my baggage in the locker back at those times and locations.
|I am perfectly normal.|
Life is too short to spend bemoaning all the opportunities missed; all the injustices done you and all the mistakes you intentionally or inadvertently made. Life is also too short to spend your time trying to justify yourself to people who only want to find fault in you.
If and when you have an opportunity to restore a relationship that was once foolishly or accidently broken - then you should do so. But you also need to avoid insanity.
When you keep suffering because of certain people or certain behaviors, it is time to board the train and go see the sights elsewhere - and leave your baggage back at the train station.
|Jump up on stage and have a dance - enjoy yourself. Leave your baggage for others to carry.|
2013 Social Commentary Articles
Terrorism the Media doesn't want to report on
by R.P. BenDedek et al.
August 13, 2006
Every time Israel takes action against Hamas in Gaza and starts blowing up tunnels, the 'western activists' start gushing tears from their eyes and blood from their hearts. The purpose here today is simply to provide information to counter the irrationality of 'agenda driven' activists who seek to control the emotions and minds of the silent and somewhat mindless majority. I am still 8 years old, hospitalized in critical condition. Screaming from pain. Bandaged from head to toe. And my head is not the same. No longer full of golden long hair. The head is burnt. The face, back, the legs and arms, burnt. I am surrounded by family members, but my mother is not with me.
Learning to Hate The U.S.A.
by R.P. BenDedek
August 11, 2013
American Education is actively turning young Americans into terrorists. The speaker is Brigitte Gabriel (pseudonym), a Lebanese American journalist, author, and activist. Within the video she produces documents which purport that despite so called separation of State and Church, Islam is being introduced to school children at school, and via injection of big dollars into universities all over the USA, Students are being taught to hate the USA.
Political Islam is full of hypocrisy and lies
by R.P. BenDedek
August 11, 2013
Politicians care only for themselves and nothing for the truth unless it suits their purposes. What they do call truth is usually nothing but lies! The general population - never seem to notice when radicals of all nationalities, religions and persuasions turn to 'ad hominems' rather than to logical debate when someone disagrees with them. The honest man will argue his point honestly. The perverted man ignores the argument and attacks the man (ad hominem) as though truth is not found in discovering and weighing the evidence and facts but in the character and 'Politically Correct Nature' of the person speaking them.
R.P.BenDedek (pseudonym) is the Author of 'The King's Calendar: The Secret of Qumran' (http://www.kingscalendar.com ), and is a guest columnist and stand-in Editor at Magic City Morning Star News. He is also the Editor of the 'Writers Journal' at Kingscalendar.com. An Australian, he has been teaching Conversational English in China since 2003.
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"The King's Calendar" is a chronological study of the historical books of the Bible (Kings and Chronicles), Josephus, Seder Olam Rabbah, and the (Essene) Damascus Document of The Dead Sea Scrolls