Excerpt From Chapter 17
In my way of thinking, a person's self identity is not based on what they have or haven't done, but on sufficient and honest self-awareness to be able to say, 'I am glad that I am me!' I am glad that being 'me' meant that I went beyond the 'definition' of my job, to help those boys, not because I 'believed' in them, but because I didn't want to see them waste the wonderful opportunity that came their way.
My self-worth is not dependent on the approval of others, but upon my doing my utmost to be as good a person as I can be in my dealings with people. If some people for whatever reason, find it necessary to grind me under foot in order to be noticed and if some need to run me down to feel good about themselves, or if people think that they can make others think less of me by doing and saying things to destroy my reputation and character, then I believe that is their problem - not mine.
My self-worth comes from the intangibles of life, and my life in China has provided me with far too many for any one person to rob me of my self-identity. This is of course, the meaning of the title of this book. "Finding myself in China"; I found myself! Now my identity is mine. I no longer depend on others to define who I am. They may think, say and do as they please. I no longer need such people in my life. My life is too full of people who have shared their lives with me; too full of people I have cared enough about to help, and helping not only manifests itself in many different ways, but brings with it many different rewards.
.............As the old saying goes, all good things must come to an end, and so it was that at the end of that semester, Chiara headed back to Italy. I on the other hand was meant to head back to Australia to see my family. But I didn't!
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2013 Social Commentary Articles
The Dysfunction in the Religion of Peace by R.P. BenDedek
By R.P. BenDedek
September 28, 2013
Muslim belief is that ultimately everything is Allah's will. Whether they approve or disapprove of the Kenyan massacres is irrelevant. It is Allah's will! Whether ordinary Muslims approve or disapprove of those terrorists is irrelevant. It is Allah's will! Whatever a Muslim may say with his lips, his true meaning is hidden in the back of his mind. It is Allah's will! Every Muslim, like every other true believer in every other religion, dreams of seeing the world converted to their god. For the Muslim therefore, every action that leads to the defeat or conversion of the infidel must be Allah's will.
Giving the Finger to Comrade GOOGLE's brand of Communism
By Comrade R.P. BenDedek
August 26, 2013
I have come to the decision that the only thing I can do is take a page out of Comrade Google's 'Little Red Book' and say: 'Screw You!' Comrade Google didn't like the way the Communist Government of China kept changing the rules. Comrade Google would not submit to a 'totalitarian authority'. Comrade Google decided to pull up stakes and leave. Is there a lesson to be learned in that?
Learning to Hate The U.S.A.
by R.P. BenDedek
August 11, 2013
American Education is actively turning young Americans into terrorists. The speaker is Brigitte Gabriel (pseudonym), a Lebanese American journalist, author, and activist. Within the video she produces documents which purport that despite so called separation of State and Church, Islam is being introduced to school children at school, and via injection of big dollars into universities all over the USA, Students are being taught to hate the USA.
R.P.BenDedek (pseudonym) is the Author of 'The King's Calendar: The Secret of Qumran' (http://www.kingscalendar.com ), and is a guest columnist and stand-in Editor at Magic City Morning Star News. He is also the Editor of the 'Writers Journal' at Kingscalendar.com. An Australian, he has been teaching Conversational English in China since 2003.
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"The King's Calendar" is a chronological study of the historical books of the Bible (Kings and Chronicles), Josephus, Seder Olam Rabbah, and the (Essene) Damascus Document of The Dead Sea Scrolls