Down the Road
Sammy moves in
Every other cat or kitten we've taken in spent two or three days hiding somewhere out of sight and finally tiptoeing out to where he or she could keep a better eye on us. One "hid" on the hot water heater in the back kitchen, in plain sight but maybe out of sight in her mind. When she finally came out, she took over for awhile until we all got used to each other.
Aug 31, 2014 - 12:25:23 AM
In Search of the Good Enough Mother
You want to be the kind of mother with unending tender love and care, never losing your cool and never getting in your own way. You want to be patient in all circumstances. You want to find that perfect balance of being your child's comfort, guide, disciplinarian, and friend. You want to be all that you wished your own mother was but wasn't. You surely don't ever want to make the mistakes that she made. Yet we all know that no mother can live up to that kind of hype.
Aug 31, 2014 - 12:20:44 AM
Down the Road
Milt Gross Book Review: "Standing on Principal" by Frank Vetro
One outcome of what happened was clear in that by the end of the book, Vetro had still not been returned to his previous administration position and had excepted a teaching position that was on a much lower scale. I would not recommend Standing on Principal for its writing or literary value, but I do recommend it for its apparently true story of justice gone wrong. The writer was definitely wronged, according to the book.
Aug 31, 2014 - 12:05:40 AM
Is Multitasking Multi-Deadly?
If you look at the latest job listings, I guarantee that a large percentage of them will read, "Must be able to multitask and work under pressure in a deadline-driven, fast paced environment..." These descriptions should say, "...where creativity and your health and well-being are not important. True humans need not apply."
Aug 29, 2014 - 12:25:55 AM
The Bath - Part Two
August 2008 arrived once again and so did Peyton. I couldn't believe a year had passed since her last summer's visit and now that she was ten, I expected a lot of changes and I wasn't disappointed either. Since her mother was attending conferences in Arizona for her final preparation for her Doctoral dissertation, we had arranged to drive from Minot, Maine down to Newington, New Hampshire to pick her up for her two week stay.
Aug 29, 2014 - 12:10:03 AM
Be Here Now: How to be emotionally present to life's challenges
We can try to get around life. We can try to take a short-cut around the pain. We can try to circumvent the difficulties. But we can't actually avoid the journey. It takes real strength to face life as it comes, step by step, just as it is. It takes real patience to accept that some things in life cannot be hurried along but must unfold over time.
Aug 27, 2014 - 1:13:07 AM
Down the Road
The old Twombly farm
How things change over the years! "Tom" e-mailed me recently that he had purchased the farm in Belgrade that had once belonged to the Twombly family. He also sent me photos of how the farm looked when he purchased it, run down and not at all like the Twombly farm I remembered from my childhood.
Aug 24, 2014 - 12:23:14 AM
Seven Things You Should Know About Vitamin 'A'
I was alarmed and scarred but an earlier knowledge bubbled back to me. Could this be a case of night blindness? I picked up a book and attempted to see and read the words, but, every word was blurred. From a nearby Kroger supermarket, I purchased vitamin A gel-caps and drove back home; where the TV images and the written texts were still blurred. Forty thousand international units of Vitamin A and five minutes was all it took to restore my vision perfectly.
Aug 24, 2014 - 12:20:02 AM
Health and the Subconscious
The body needs exercises: ways of opening up the blocked energy. Practicing these daily exercises encourages the muscles to realign with gravity. When these are practiced daily, you will find yourself more in control of your subconscious.
Aug 21, 2014 - 12:12:35 AM
Raising Children to Fail in Future Relationships
I also believe that the more dating one does with different partners, the more one believes there is always someone out there who is better. People are quick to magnify the flaws of another. But yet most people have never been taught to work through relationship difficulties with someone.
Aug 21, 2014 - 12:10:09 AM
Thinking about a new pet? How about rescue?
If you have ever been to Puerto Rico, The Caribbean islands, or South America, you have seen first hand how Paradise is tarnished with homeless dogs and cats. They live in the sage brush at the head of the beach; they raise their kittens and their puppies in garbage dumps; they hide under cars; they beg for food at every corner. Tropical heat and hurricanes are only the beginning of the conflicts these animals face. Hunger, fleas, mange, other dogs, people -- after a year in the wild like this, who could imagine that they could possibly be good pets?
Aug 20, 2014 - 12:24:30 AM
Down the Road
A whole bunch of literary yesteryears
Guys, if you're open to some real adventure, encourage your spouse to go to the recycling center by herself. Mine did, the other day, and came back with 13 volumes dating from 1848 until I'm not sure when. I'll probably read all of them except the 1848 copy of Vanity Fair, which is in too tender a condition for actual reading. The print is very fine and the book cover in precarious condition.
Aug 17, 2014 - 12:20:01 AM
Another good old friend of Dad's was a fellow named Hake Paige. Hake and Dad had known each other since they'd gone to school together as children. Over the years, they'd worked together in the potato houses, gone on hunting and fishing trips and been downright good friends. They'd shared a good many butts, brews and stories in all the time they'd been acquainted.
Aug 17, 2014 - 12:12:06 AM
Sharing Reality and Truth
One day as a youngster I was told that if I knew what I would really like to be as an adult my wish would come true. I was a serious minded kid and mulled the thought over for a few days. Then for some totally inexplicable reason without having any idea what it meant, I wished to become "a successful business man of the world".
Aug 15, 2014 - 12:30:58 AM
Heaven Bound - A Poem by Martha Stevens-David
Martha Stevens-David shares with Magic City readers today, her most recent Poem "Heaven Bound."
Aug 13, 2014 - 12:27:07 AM
You See a Shrink?
It is often the assumption that if you go to therapy that you have serious problems you cannot manage on your own and there is something fundamentally wrong with you. In reality, if someone is attending therapy, they tend to be on the healthier side of self-love and self-awareness. Because seeing a therapist is stigmatized many people who want to seek help, either often don't, or they keep their therapy private so they do not invoke judgment.
Aug 13, 2014 - 12:25:07 AM
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Trip to Maine long ago
A dozen or so miles out on a country road (Route 135) we came to her farmhouse, an old cape held up by a six-foot stone balanced on end in the center of the basement. (During our second or third year, my father and I found Katahdin on a map. We went there, camping, during Maine's frigid August evenings and seeing our first moose. It was that mountain, woods, and moose experience that locked me into loving the Pine Tree State.)
Aug 10, 2014 - 12:33:30 AM
Taking Charge of Your Health in an Era of Healthcare Uncertainty
In many cases, you won't get patient-centered care unless you relentlessly pursue it. With perseverance, however, you can get exceptions to hospital and insurance practices to customize your loved one's care and improve his or her quality of life. Be present. Ask questions. Speak up. Keep good records. Learn to think beyond how it is always done, and to speak in dollars and sense. Refuse to be intimidated. Most importantly, don't give up.
Aug 10, 2014 - 12:25:25 AM
Excerpt from In the Spirit of Elijah: 'Nicodemus and Lazarus'
He is forever doing good works, yet they seem never to proceed from any effort on his behalf. Righteousness appears to flow from him as easy as breathing. Something I have strived for is natural to him.' Then she turns to look at the Elder; 'That is what is so unusual and confounding about him. We strive to be holy, whereas, he does it by nature. That is why it appears so incredible that he should require baptism, for I am sure God hears all his prayers.'
Aug 10, 2014 - 12:20:31 AM
Berchtesgaden Before Insula (Island of Hope)
On April 25, 1945 near the end of WW II a force of 359 Royal Air Force Lancaster bombers flew to Berchtesgaden and dropped about 1,232 tons of bombs on the Obersalzberg area where Hitler's Berghof chalet and buildings of other Nazi officials. Berghof took three direct hits on one wing and damaging nearly every other building. Residents in the area took shelter in the underground bunkers, only six were killed. The remnants of Berghof are seen from ruins of Hotel "Zum Turken". City of Berchtesgaden was not bombed.
Aug 10, 2014 - 12:15:27 AM
7 Steps to Developing Self-Aware Children
Self-awareness is a key predictor of a child's ability to be balanced and secure in life. Being self-aware helps kids establish positive peer relationships, allows them to get along well at home and to respect authority. Self-awareness is at the core of emotional intelligence and is crucial in your children reaching their academic and personal goals all throughout life.
Aug 6, 2014 - 12:20:06 AM
Jesus and friends at the Jordan
Meanwhile, James, the Lord's brother, has been taking notice of how John baptises his adherents. He is taken aback at his approach. Though knowing he is of levitical stock, the fact that John has turned away from orthodox priesthood compels him to reject John as a priest. He has not been taking notice of the current conversation, when he interjects with: "Did you see that John!! He lifts up his hands, as if calling on God to bless those, he has just baptised. It is as if he is a priest. How can he do this? Is it not for a priest or levite to do such a thing."
Aug 6, 2014 - 12:12:24 AM
Down the Road
I have found tales (not tails) about moose to be favorites of both Maine residents and visitors to our moose-populated state. My two most recent moose sightings were both in or bordering Acadia National Park, both from a road. So if you're scouting for the big, dumb beasties, my advice is to stay right on the roads, unless you enjoy puckerbrushing. (But puckerbrushing can be noisy, which tends to cause moose to puckerbrush away from where you're puckerbrushing.)
Aug 3, 2014 - 6:30:53 AM
Excerpt from "In White America"
Paul Barlin and his wife, Anne, became the first couple to adopt an interracial child in California in 1956. Currently a resident of Colorado, Barlin is the author of six books, including In White America, which follows the family's journey. In the book, author Paul Barlin highlights social courage, race in America, and the idea that all men -- and babies -- are created equal.
Aug 3, 2014 - 6:27:16 AM
Discipline is the Highest Form of Love
Discipline is they key to raising functional happy children. What this means is that parents need to, first and foremost, be disciplined themselves. If a parent isn't disciplined there is no chance of disciplining their children correctly. Discipline should come from natural consequences, or the law of cause and effect. It should not come from induced fear, humiliation, shame, yelling or any form of physical or emotional coercion. Children who have been disciplined correctly have been given loving and firm guidance and they show the following character traits, which last a lifetime.
Aug 1, 2014 - 1:17:50 AM
Memories of the Library
Ever since I learned to read, books have been a source of inspiration and imagination, enriching my mind with thoughts and ideas outside the realm and influence of my family and friends. Avidly, I devoured any reading material that crossed my path. I even resorted to reading the encyclopedia when I had exhausted the mountain of books checked out from the library.
Jul 31, 2014 - 2:05:17 AM
Surviving Fear And Terror
The people of our country under the occupation by Russian Communists were living constantly in a nightmarish, terror-filled environment. Every day, some people's friends, relatives, or acquaintances mysteriously disappeared. The arrests and detentions happened during the night. Hatred against the repressive system was rising, but it was subdued and helpless because of an elaborate surveillance and spying network, which the new regime had installed.
Jul 30, 2014 - 7:37:34 AM
Down the Road
The things that stick to my mind the most are what I did with my family. I remember a number of hikes with the kids. They may have been highlights. I remember the youngest, Scottie, riding the shoulder seat-pack and yanking at trees as we climbed Saddleback. I remember us all atop Baldpate. I remember looking at slides and asking the kids which mountain this was, and their reply, "Baldpate, of course." We had climbed that one several times.
Jul 27, 2014 - 4:17:07 AM
Dad said that the first time he'd ever laid eyes on "tha suit" his Uncle Jimmy was wearin it, not well, but wearin it jist the same. Dad was nineteen years-old by then and it was nineteen thirty-four. The First World War was jist a bad memory in most people's minds and Grammy Stevens kept sayin "Thank You God!" because none of her family had been called up to lay their lives on tha line for that shitty war!
Jul 27, 2014 - 4:03:24 AM
The Healing Power of Story-Telling
I'm so glad that I had that experience. Going to that school for a few months and especially that one afternoon at my friend's house saved me. They saved me from a closed mind that would have really limited my thinking, my understanding, and my whole life. I'm so thankful for that....If we could learn how to both share our own stories and with neither judgment nor defensiveness, listen to those of others, we would grow in wisdom at a rate I don't think we even believe is possible.
Jul 22, 2014 - 12:20:05 AM
Down the Road
I also feel old when people hold doors open for me at stores and restaurants. I explain to them that this is why I carry the walking stick. Not that I need it, but it gets people to open doors for me. They understand and chuckle, but I see in their eyes they're glad they're not getting old. What a surprise they have coming!
Jul 20, 2014 - 3:27:04 AM
Life is a culmination of choices
During my law enforcement career with the Birmingham, Alabama Police Department, I served as an Officer, Detective, Supervisor, and Administrator. As I got closer to retirement, I began to reflect on my empirical view on how the family, which is the cornerstone of this country, is fading fast because of bad choices made by selfish parents and a few incorrigible children.
Jul 20, 2014 - 3:12:20 AM
His given name was "Kenneth" but, everyone who knew him, always called him "Macaroni." He was what some people might call the "town" character. Folks loved to play jokes on him and he was never one to let them down. He was blessed with a cheerful nature and would submit to whatever indignity done to him without a word of complaint. When you first laid eyes on him, you got the distinct impression that he was "simple," but if you looked closer, it was easy to see that there was a keen intelligence lurking somewhere just behind his eyes.
Jul 18, 2014 - 2:52:17 AM
Self-Confidence Begins in the Home
A child's sense of self is shaped by every interaction he or she has, but is shaped most powerfully by how they are loved and parented in their home. How a child sees themselves will influence every aspect of their life from their education, relationships and over-all well-being. Life is about feeling good enough, competent, loved, successful and happy and the outer world doesn't always reflect this, so the unconditional love and acceptance at home is the catalyst for their greatness.
Jul 16, 2014 - 7:09:00 PM
"The Loving and Mystical Side of Islam" by Brad Tyndall
The first day I ate at the restaurant, a poor stranger in a clean jelibia robe came up to the cashbox and insisted on paying for my meal. He wouldn't back down. He pleaded with me by invoking a long array of religious petitions. At the next meal, and each time afterward, I tried to pay for my meal and some poor soul would jump up, invoke God (Alaik Allah!), and insist that I allow him to pay for me. I tried several techniques to try to pay, but to no avail.
Jul 14, 2014 - 12:25:05 AM
Down the Road
Those cute wily fox
My friend had the rabies shots. I had none, because my hot long jeans kept his mouth away from my tender white leg. But I missed my chance in gym class the next day, when we were all outside playing baseball. The other kids had heard about Brer's attempting to bite me and wanted to know if I had rabies. I missed the chance to slobber at them.
Jul 13, 2014 - 2:27:17 AM
Crossroads: Not a Destination, But a Journey By George Q. Langstaff, Jr.
I have a sincere and deep belief in the importance of creating and fostering a close-knit family. My wife and I come from such families, we have created one and our children are doing the same. My family motto is "faith, family, friends," which inspires massive involvement in church and civic activities including leadership roles, financial support and work in the trenches.
Jul 13, 2014 - 2:25:01 AM
8 Signs You are Dating a Psychopath
Are you in a love-relationship with a psychopath? Psychopaths are nearly impossible to detect. They appear to be normal, happy, charming, wonderful people who have it together. They do not appear disturbed, callous or devious. They tend to be extremely successful, convincing and in control of their lives. So, unless you are clear on what to look for, you could end up in the worst and most confusingly devastating experience of your life. These experiences can be so devastating that you lose trust in yourself, you lose hope in people and become confused about who and what to believe.
Jul 13, 2014 - 2:17:13 AM
Down the Road
Why the fireworks? Is it because the U.S. declared independence from Great Britain with a lot of shooting? Perhaps. But in reality the shooting was only the means to an end. The end was the independence from English taxes and English control. I believe it was the Declaration of Independence that we should be celebrating -- done on paper by a group of men around a table or in uncomfortable chairs in Philadelphia. I have never read of any fireworks in that room.
Jul 6, 2014 - 2:23:09 AM
Fried Zucchini Blossoms Recipe
In his new book, The Broken Heart Diet, author Tom Formaro explores how to channel heartbreak through cooking. Today at Magic City he has shared with us his recipe for Fried Zucchini Blossoms. A very easy recipe to follow.
Jul 4, 2014 - 12:22:17 AM