How to Win Your Next Parenting Wars at Back to School Night
As an expat Brit with seventeen years of parenting in the US under my belt, I'm here to warn you that this is one American school tradition, unlike Prom night, that you almost certainly don't want to import. Actually, I wish the Brits had never started to import the tradition of Prom night, with all the potential for romantic rejection and social exclusion that entails, but I speak as a chubby former teen, and besides, that ship has already sailed, or so I understand.
Oct 1, 2014 - 9:07:04 PM
Down the Road
The narrow gauge railroad at Boothbay
According to the pamphlet, the standard four-foot 8.5-inches wide track had its origins in Roman soldiers driving two-horse carts. The two horses were a combined width of about four feet. The carts left tracks, and in order not to damage the carts it was important to keep the same width of the road. The standard gauge railroad developed from the width of those roads.
Sep 28, 2014 - 5:45:02 AM
Rosh HaShanah guide for the perplexed, 2014
Rosh Hashanah is also referred to as "Ha'rat Olam" (the pregnancy of the world), and it's prayers highlight motherhood, optimism and the pregnancies of Sarah and Rachel, the Matriarchs, and Hannah, who gave birth to Isaac, Joseph & Benjamin and the Prophet Samuel respectively. Sarah (the root of the Hebrew word, Israel) and Hannah (the root of the Hebrew words Pardon, Amnesty and Merciful) were two of the seven Jewish Prophetesses: Sarah, Miriam, Hannah, Deborah, Huldah, Abigail, Esther. Hannah's prayer has become a role-model for God-heeded-prayers which are recited by the "non-privileged".
Sep 24, 2014 - 8:07:20 AM
Down the Road
I didn't move to Maine in 1965 to work. I came to enjoy the mountains, the trails, the lakes, the ocean, and the outdoors generally. Did I? No. I had to work to be able to live in the Pine Tree State. Been working all that time until now. The worst part about retirement is I won't see my friends on the bus each day. The best part is I won't have to get up at 4 a.m. to see my friends on the bus each day.
Sep 24, 2014 - 7:58:15 AM
Ask Better Questions
What if you could improve your life and help your children do the same by developing one specific habit? You already use this technique in everyday interactions, however, you may be using them in the wrong way because no one has ever taught you how to ask better questions.
Sep 17, 2014 - 12:12:49 AM
Down the Road
Crazy things happen
If you have --or can make up -- the answers to any of these questions, please let me know. I have to dash off and don't have time to dream up the answers. But there must be answers.
Sep 14, 2014 - 12:25:35 AM
'Columbia - The Seven' - Poem by Martha Stevens-David
Martha has published three books about her life growing up in Maine and today she presents a Poem. Martha Stevens-David is a prolific writer with many styles including Children's stories and murder mysteries.
Sep 14, 2014 - 12:15:20 AM
How to Manage Your Talent: Five Realistic Tips for Success
With each performance booking and introduction, we came closer and closer to the "big one." So how did I know that he really had that "star quality?" and, how did I not give up even when Michael (Buble) doubted himself? In countless worldwide radio, TV and print interviews, one of the most common questions that I am asked is: "so, what does it really take to make it in the industry?" Or, phrased this way: "how do you know that you really have potential and talent?"
Sep 12, 2014 - 9:20:31 AM
Vengeance is Mine Pt 4
Sometimes, when all of her other patients were sound asleep, she'd slip into Mrs. Stanton's room and stand quietly by the door and look at her. There was something acutely familiar about the way the woman's face looked when in repose and it disturbed Mary Elizabeth that she couldn't figure out what it was that drew her to that particular patient.
Sep 12, 2014 - 9:07:36 AM
Down the Road
Sammy (Wicked) takes over
But her name got changed, when Dolores took her to the veterinarian for an exam. He found no problems, no worms, no fleas, just this four-pound tiger kitten looking up at him as he studied her. "The official prognosis is that she's wicked cute," the vet explained to Dolores.
Sep 7, 2014 - 12:27:48 AM
A Debtor's Perfect Storm: Three Views of Debt
If we do not resolve our appetite for debt very soon, these three views of debt will converge; the dollar will lose its premium value, Uncle Sam will lose his credit and we will lose our sugar daddy. That will indeed be a perfect storm. I encourage readers to investigate current events and policies and come to their own conclusions through rational discussion and independent thinking, rather than letting others think for them.
Sep 7, 2014 - 12:25:37 AM
Vengeance is Mine Pt. 3
"Oh, Mary, Mother of God, what are we going to do with her?" Hearing the sadness in her voice, the young Nun reached down and picked up the child. She turned and thrust the baby into the Mother Superior's arms. "I don't know about you but, God wants us to keep her or she wouldn't be here." she said. "And from what I heard, aren't you this child's aunt?"
Sep 7, 2014 - 12:22:39 AM
What Kind of Happiness Do You Want?
Some people's marriage dreams are overly material-oriented. They hope their partners have high academic qualifications, have nice cars and houses. Some ladies want to marry a handsome guy who is at least 6 feet tall.
Sep 5, 2014 - 12:10:22 AM
Vengeance is Mine Pt. 2
As she felt the size of the fetus, she felt sick to her stomach. "She's not six and a half months gone," she thought to herself, "She's more likely closer to eight months along, if she's a day." The Nun looked up and her eyes met Mother Superiors.
Sep 3, 2014 - 12:20:03 AM
Down the Road
Sammy moves in
Every other cat or kitten we've taken in spent two or three days hiding somewhere out of sight and finally tiptoeing out to where he or she could keep a better eye on us. One "hid" on the hot water heater in the back kitchen, in plain sight but maybe out of sight in her mind. When she finally came out, she took over for awhile until we all got used to each other.
Aug 31, 2014 - 12:25:23 AM
In Search of the Good Enough Mother
You want to be the kind of mother with unending tender love and care, never losing your cool and never getting in your own way. You want to be patient in all circumstances. You want to find that perfect balance of being your child's comfort, guide, disciplinarian, and friend. You want to be all that you wished your own mother was but wasn't. You surely don't ever want to make the mistakes that she made. Yet we all know that no mother can live up to that kind of hype.
Aug 31, 2014 - 12:20:44 AM
Down the Road
Milt Gross Book Review: "Standing on Principal" by Frank Vetro
One outcome of what happened was clear in that by the end of the book, Vetro had still not been returned to his previous administration position and had excepted a teaching position that was on a much lower scale. I would not recommend Standing on Principal for its writing or literary value, but I do recommend it for its apparently true story of justice gone wrong. The writer was definitely wronged, according to the book.
Aug 31, 2014 - 12:05:40 AM
Is Multitasking Multi-Deadly?
If you look at the latest job listings, I guarantee that a large percentage of them will read, "Must be able to multitask and work under pressure in a deadline-driven, fast paced environment..." These descriptions should say, "...where creativity and your health and well-being are not important. True humans need not apply."
Aug 29, 2014 - 12:25:55 AM
The Bath - Part Two
August 2008 arrived once again and so did Peyton. I couldn't believe a year had passed since her last summer's visit and now that she was ten, I expected a lot of changes and I wasn't disappointed either. Since her mother was attending conferences in Arizona for her final preparation for her Doctoral dissertation, we had arranged to drive from Minot, Maine down to Newington, New Hampshire to pick her up for her two week stay.
Aug 29, 2014 - 12:10:03 AM
Be Here Now: How to be emotionally present to life's challenges
We can try to get around life. We can try to take a short-cut around the pain. We can try to circumvent the difficulties. But we can't actually avoid the journey. It takes real strength to face life as it comes, step by step, just as it is. It takes real patience to accept that some things in life cannot be hurried along but must unfold over time.
Aug 27, 2014 - 1:13:07 AM
Down the Road
The old Twombly farm
How things change over the years! "Tom" e-mailed me recently that he had purchased the farm in Belgrade that had once belonged to the Twombly family. He also sent me photos of how the farm looked when he purchased it, run down and not at all like the Twombly farm I remembered from my childhood.
Aug 24, 2014 - 12:23:14 AM
Seven Things You Should Know About Vitamin 'A'
I was alarmed and scarred but an earlier knowledge bubbled back to me. Could this be a case of night blindness? I picked up a book and attempted to see and read the words, but, every word was blurred. From a nearby Kroger supermarket, I purchased vitamin A gel-caps and drove back home; where the TV images and the written texts were still blurred. Forty thousand international units of Vitamin A and five minutes was all it took to restore my vision perfectly.
Aug 24, 2014 - 12:20:02 AM
Health and the Subconscious
The body needs exercises: ways of opening up the blocked energy. Practicing these daily exercises encourages the muscles to realign with gravity. When these are practiced daily, you will find yourself more in control of your subconscious.
Aug 21, 2014 - 12:12:35 AM
Raising Children to Fail in Future Relationships
I also believe that the more dating one does with different partners, the more one believes there is always someone out there who is better. People are quick to magnify the flaws of another. But yet most people have never been taught to work through relationship difficulties with someone.
Aug 21, 2014 - 12:10:09 AM
Thinking about a new pet? How about rescue?
If you have ever been to Puerto Rico, The Caribbean islands, or South America, you have seen first hand how Paradise is tarnished with homeless dogs and cats. They live in the sage brush at the head of the beach; they raise their kittens and their puppies in garbage dumps; they hide under cars; they beg for food at every corner. Tropical heat and hurricanes are only the beginning of the conflicts these animals face. Hunger, fleas, mange, other dogs, people -- after a year in the wild like this, who could imagine that they could possibly be good pets?
Aug 20, 2014 - 12:24:30 AM
Down the Road
A whole bunch of literary yesteryears
Guys, if you're open to some real adventure, encourage your spouse to go to the recycling center by herself. Mine did, the other day, and came back with 13 volumes dating from 1848 until I'm not sure when. I'll probably read all of them except the 1848 copy of Vanity Fair, which is in too tender a condition for actual reading. The print is very fine and the book cover in precarious condition.
Aug 17, 2014 - 12:20:01 AM
Another good old friend of Dad's was a fellow named Hake Paige. Hake and Dad had known each other since they'd gone to school together as children. Over the years, they'd worked together in the potato houses, gone on hunting and fishing trips and been downright good friends. They'd shared a good many butts, brews and stories in all the time they'd been acquainted.
Aug 17, 2014 - 12:12:06 AM
Sharing Reality and Truth
One day as a youngster I was told that if I knew what I would really like to be as an adult my wish would come true. I was a serious minded kid and mulled the thought over for a few days. Then for some totally inexplicable reason without having any idea what it meant, I wished to become "a successful business man of the world".
Aug 15, 2014 - 12:30:58 AM
Heaven Bound - A Poem by Martha Stevens-David
Martha Stevens-David shares with Magic City readers today, her most recent Poem "Heaven Bound."
Aug 13, 2014 - 12:27:07 AM
You See a Shrink?
It is often the assumption that if you go to therapy that you have serious problems you cannot manage on your own and there is something fundamentally wrong with you. In reality, if someone is attending therapy, they tend to be on the healthier side of self-love and self-awareness. Because seeing a therapist is stigmatized many people who want to seek help, either often don't, or they keep their therapy private so they do not invoke judgment.
Aug 13, 2014 - 12:25:07 AM
Down the Road
Trip to Maine long ago
A dozen or so miles out on a country road (Route 135) we came to her farmhouse, an old cape held up by a six-foot stone balanced on end in the center of the basement. (During our second or third year, my father and I found Katahdin on a map. We went there, camping, during Maine's frigid August evenings and seeing our first moose. It was that mountain, woods, and moose experience that locked me into loving the Pine Tree State.)
Aug 10, 2014 - 12:33:30 AM
Taking Charge of Your Health in an Era of Healthcare Uncertainty
In many cases, you won't get patient-centered care unless you relentlessly pursue it. With perseverance, however, you can get exceptions to hospital and insurance practices to customize your loved one's care and improve his or her quality of life. Be present. Ask questions. Speak up. Keep good records. Learn to think beyond how it is always done, and to speak in dollars and sense. Refuse to be intimidated. Most importantly, don't give up.
Aug 10, 2014 - 12:25:25 AM
Excerpt from In the Spirit of Elijah: 'Nicodemus and Lazarus'
He is forever doing good works, yet they seem never to proceed from any effort on his behalf. Righteousness appears to flow from him as easy as breathing. Something I have strived for is natural to him.' Then she turns to look at the Elder; 'That is what is so unusual and confounding about him. We strive to be holy, whereas, he does it by nature. That is why it appears so incredible that he should require baptism, for I am sure God hears all his prayers.'
Aug 10, 2014 - 12:20:31 AM
Berchtesgaden Before Insula (Island of Hope)
On April 25, 1945 near the end of WW II a force of 359 Royal Air Force Lancaster bombers flew to Berchtesgaden and dropped about 1,232 tons of bombs on the Obersalzberg area where Hitler's Berghof chalet and buildings of other Nazi officials. Berghof took three direct hits on one wing and damaging nearly every other building. Residents in the area took shelter in the underground bunkers, only six were killed. The remnants of Berghof are seen from ruins of Hotel "Zum Turken". City of Berchtesgaden was not bombed.
Aug 10, 2014 - 12:15:27 AM
7 Steps to Developing Self-Aware Children
Self-awareness is a key predictor of a child's ability to be balanced and secure in life. Being self-aware helps kids establish positive peer relationships, allows them to get along well at home and to respect authority. Self-awareness is at the core of emotional intelligence and is crucial in your children reaching their academic and personal goals all throughout life.
Aug 6, 2014 - 12:20:06 AM
Jesus and friends at the Jordan
Meanwhile, James, the Lord's brother, has been taking notice of how John baptises his adherents. He is taken aback at his approach. Though knowing he is of levitical stock, the fact that John has turned away from orthodox priesthood compels him to reject John as a priest. He has not been taking notice of the current conversation, when he interjects with: "Did you see that John!! He lifts up his hands, as if calling on God to bless those, he has just baptised. It is as if he is a priest. How can he do this? Is it not for a priest or levite to do such a thing."
Aug 6, 2014 - 12:12:24 AM
Down the Road
I have found tales (not tails) about moose to be favorites of both Maine residents and visitors to our moose-populated state. My two most recent moose sightings were both in or bordering Acadia National Park, both from a road. So if you're scouting for the big, dumb beasties, my advice is to stay right on the roads, unless you enjoy puckerbrushing. (But puckerbrushing can be noisy, which tends to cause moose to puckerbrush away from where you're puckerbrushing.)
Aug 3, 2014 - 6:30:53 AM
Excerpt from "In White America"
Paul Barlin and his wife, Anne, became the first couple to adopt an interracial child in California in 1956. Currently a resident of Colorado, Barlin is the author of six books, including In White America, which follows the family's journey. In the book, author Paul Barlin highlights social courage, race in America, and the idea that all men -- and babies -- are created equal.
Aug 3, 2014 - 6:27:16 AM
Discipline is the Highest Form of Love
Discipline is they key to raising functional happy children. What this means is that parents need to, first and foremost, be disciplined themselves. If a parent isn't disciplined there is no chance of disciplining their children correctly. Discipline should come from natural consequences, or the law of cause and effect. It should not come from induced fear, humiliation, shame, yelling or any form of physical or emotional coercion. Children who have been disciplined correctly have been given loving and firm guidance and they show the following character traits, which last a lifetime.
Aug 1, 2014 - 1:17:50 AM
Memories of the Library
Ever since I learned to read, books have been a source of inspiration and imagination, enriching my mind with thoughts and ideas outside the realm and influence of my family and friends. Avidly, I devoured any reading material that crossed my path. I even resorted to reading the encyclopedia when I had exhausted the mountain of books checked out from the library.
Jul 31, 2014 - 2:05:17 AM