In this day and age, it is difficult to know what to do on many issues. It seems that so many things are decided for us by a government that says it is looking out for our best interests. Sometimes it makes us feel helpless and not in control of our own lives.
There have been so many reports of people who lost health insurance while trying to apply as law-abiding citizens. Many were given Medicaid when they were not applying for it. Some had rates rise far greater than they could ever afford to pay. The most concerning is the idea that once given the information the program can be hacked by professional hackers and all your information is now in the hands of people who are less than honest. It is hard to know who is in control.
Now imagine being a parent or a child dealing with things that should seem to be in your control, but are not. How does this happen? It is so easy to blame a government for everything. Many blame neighbors, schools, local church, friends or family members. However, none of these are correct.
There is an old saying that says, "If you cannot control your life, someone else will control it for you." When we fail to participate, what do we permit? The same thing is happening under your very own roof.
When you do not keep yourself involved in your child's life or other events going on around you, you are relinquishing control. It is so easy to let things go when your child is misbehaving. Maybe some things do need to be let go. Most things need to be at least discussed with the child.
When we decline or otherwise deny ourselves the opportunity to stay active in the events going on around us we willingly give up control. Once this happens we are allowing some else or something else to control our situation for us.
How do we avoid this? Simple--don't give it up. Once it is left to other forces to control us, we no longer have the means to change things. Does this mean all is lost? Once our control is gone, is it no longer available to regain?
This depends on your level of concern. How much do you want to regain control of your life? What is it you want to control? There are many areas that have a great importance on our own control. Things like our spiritual life, our mental life, our social life, and our physical life. The list can be much larger I am sure, but let us only concern ourselves with these four right now.
Our spiritual life is, by far, the easiest of these places for us to regain control. It is so simple a small child can do it. Make a decision and stick with it. For me it is simple: pray to the God of creation. The one and only that is spoken of and written about in the Holy Bible. In the beginning he created the heavens and earth. He created us, man, in his own image.
The second area you can regain control in is your mental stability. I say this with the understanding that there are some, sadly, that truly do not have this capacity due to no fault of their own. There are medical reasons that can make this possible only for the majority. With this in mind, let us keep our focus on those who do have the ability to make this decision. Mental health can be controlled by our eating habits, physical fitness habits, social habits, and moral conscience. All these things can be the result of a decision.
Physical choices are also at our disposal. Do we walk in the fresh air or not? Do we subject ourselves to bad sleeping habits? Do we subject ourselves to bad eating and entertainment habits? We know what has to happen in order for us to have physical health. Of course, there are other forces going on in the course of time that can and will affect our health, but we can still keep these things to a minimum by using good habits.
The last mentioned here is social. We know there are those in our lives who are not the best choice with whom to associate. We know who is and is not. This is where you have to think about what it is you want in your life. You cannot put on a white glove and put it in a large pile of dung and expect it to come out clean. It just will not happen. Likewise, you cannot associate with those who are headed in direction opposite of where you want to go and actually believe you will reach your destination.
You say to yourself, all these things are obvious. That's correct, but what are you doing about it? Change who you vote for. Change what you are doing and the people with whom you associate. Regain control of your life. It will make a difference in you and your family.
Author of Death of a Green Soldier
Control Freak - Continued
by Michael Wright
Jan 5, 2014
Our spiritual wellbeing directly effects every other area of our lives. It has been proven over and over how patients have been miraculously cured by their faith in God. We know of many circumstances where individuals have overcome great odds as a result of their deep spiritual beliefs.
Life Lessons from Sir Isaac Newton
by Michael Wright
Dec 13, 2013
It has been proven over and over that two objects cannot occupy the same space at the same time. Think about car accidents: it seems drivers are always trying to prove this theory false. Sometimes the result of testing this theory is very traumatic and sometimes it's almost comical. Sadly, too many times it ends tragically.
A short story by Michael Wright: Lost in Teen - Part 1 of 3
Dec 4, 2013
After putting his books back in his locker, Mark found his way to the exit doors where Jeff and Matt were waiting for him. They walked quietly from school to Jeff's house. It was good to feel the warmth of the sun on them this unusually warm fall day. The color of the leaves was growing bright. This made it more enjoyable to all of them as they walked through the historic small town.
Why Your Teenager Doesn't Respect You - And what you can do to fix it
Dec 1, 2013
When we go to the doctor's office, we inevitably hear the words, "This may hurt a little." You are about to read some things may hurt a little, but I'm hopeful that like a tetanus shot, it will hurt initially and leave you better off in the end.
Michael Wright is a resident of Albuquerque, N.M. After an honorable discharge from the United States Army, Michael Wright earned his master's degree in Secondary Counseling and worked with troubled teens for more than 20 years.
He has recently published a 374 page book called Death of a Green Soldier which was released on June 20th and about which a short comment was published at Magic City on November 16, 2013