What if you could improve your life and help your children do the same by developing one specific habit? You already use this technique in everyday interactions, however, you may be using them in the wrong way because no one has ever taught you how to ask better questions.
That's it. The key to success and the path to your dreams lies in learning to ask the right questions. The "right" questions are those that engage your mind to find an answer or a solution. The best questions are those that activate the internal search engine in your mind.
When you ask a question, the brain sorts them into two categories: known within your current sphere of experience or new and yet to be discovered outside your experience. Your conscious mind accesses the known, reaching back to vast bits of information, gathering all that is useful to answer your question. It can take time to remember, access and research known resources, but answers for a good percentage of our day to day questions can be found at the conscious level. Thornier issues -- the things you want to change and improve in your life, the new ideas to explore, connections or original creations you want to make -- call upon the subconscious mind.
The subconscious mind makes up most of our brain power, be we do not generally acknowledge its role in our creative thinking and problem solving. It is most common to suggest, anecdotally, that when we have writer's block or hit a brick wall regarding a solution, "put it down, go for a walk; the answer will come to you." What is really being suggested is that you let go of the problem in your conscious mind and allow the subconscious to go to work. In contrast to the conscious mind, the subconscious is nonverbal; it responds to feelings and visual cues -- and accesses its connection to quantum consciousness and the fields of all possibility. If those are new terms, you might want to read the works of quantum physicists like Asmit Goswami as it is beyond the scope of this article to explain the finer points.
The point of this article is that our subconscious minds are aligned with this greater and unlimited consciousness and thus, all possible things. Our task is to use the conscious mind to communicate with the subconscious mind if we want to make the possible probable and determine the actions we need to take to see real results.
There are numerous tools people use to provide feeling and visual cues to the subconscious -- mind movies and visualizations among them. However, the one technique we use every day involves questions. The basic questions are: who, what, where, when, how and why. Fill in the blank to complete the request.
However, I have suggested that you ask better questions. To explain, the subconscious mind has one other quality. It answers exactly as you have asked. So if you are someone who continually asks negative questions -- about yourself, your spouse, your children, your work, etc., etc. -- you will see more and more examples of negative answers. If you don't like the results you are getting in your life, examine the questions you are asking.
If you are asking negative questions, stop. Catch yourself. Spend a few minutes to evaluate the problem you are facing and what you would prefer. Then formulate a positive question around your preference, i.e., what if we found a way to ____________________, why are we enjoying _______________, why do we have the resources to ________________?
The beauty of asking positive questions is that you do not need to answer them with your conscious mind. The answers will come. They will emerge out of your surroundings, or something you suddenly discover. That is the power of the subconscious mind.
In the words of the masters we were told: "Ask and it is given." In the warnings from our mothers we were told: "Be careful what you ask for, you may get it." If we had only understood how much better our lives could be if we heeded their advice.
Ask better questions -- ask positive questions. Watch for the ideas to emerge, act on those solutions and the results you desire will come.
Susan Sherayko is the author of Rainbows Over Ruins, a guide to those who seek to unleash their creative power. She is the Executive in Charge of Production and Emmy nominated Line Producer for "Home and Family" on Hallmark Channel. Susan is passionate about guiding others to discover how to change their thoughts and attract more successful results. To find out more about Susan and her book, Rainbows Over Ruins, visit: www.rainbowsoverruins.com
Susan has studied energetic principles for over 35 years. A professional in television production, her focus on guiding others through their own creative process, personally and professionally, emerged when a landslide destroyed her family's home. Susan found every aspect of her life altered. She and her husband faced the physical realities of displacement, the emotional grief for what had been lost and the mental challenge of finding new solutions.
"The book is more than a story about rebuilding after a landslide or learning to use the creative process in order to change my life. It's an opportunity to raise awareness for others so they can choose to engage their creativity and improve their lives as well."
"Rainbows Over Ruins"
By: Susan Sherayko
ISBN: 978-1-45259-261-9 (sc)