As I sat at my office desk today I heard for the 500th time the latest hit to hit the airwaves by Fantasia Barrino called, "Baby Mama."
I said, "Ok, this is nice."
But when you actually listen to what she's sayin, it's like she' s saying that she's condoning single parent homes.
Not that I think that's wrong; however, we should all be training our children towards a complete family home, and whatever happens after that, well, like all things, that's life.
She said, "Cuz now-a-days it like a badge of honor To be a baby mama."
Badge of honor? Is it ok that the child has to go through life without a mother and father? This is why sooooooo many of these "Baby's Mamas" end up on Talk TV, saying they cannot handle their child, or their child is out of control.
America: We must get back to the basics. Condoning this and making songs about it does nothing for our children other than give them a harder life to live. I have many friends who are single parents and they work extra hard to take care of their family. I give them their credit, but I also pray they find someone to love them just as much as they love their children. Someone that can help them with the ups and downs. Songs like Fantasias take that away in my opinion.
She goes on to say:
"I see you get that support check in the mail
Ya open it and your like "What the Hell"
You say "This ain't even half of daycare"
Sayin to yourself "This shit ain't fair"
And all my girls who don't get no help
Who gotta do everything by yourself
Remember: What don't kill you can only make you stronger."
True, but what about the single fathers that are out there who work just as hard? If you're going to do a song about single parents and the trials they go through, get both sides of the story.
So do I think it's a bad song? No, because there is worse on the radio. I just think it should have been a little more refined. Let's not send the wrong message to our children. There is enough music out there doing that already.
I am not bitter, are you interested? Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with your thoughts and I'll be sure to respond to them in my next column. Good or bad, I welcome it all.